Sleep problems are very common during the first few years of life. Problems may include waking up during the night, not wanting to go to sleep, nightmares, sleepwalking, and bedwetting. If frantic upset persists with no apparent cause, call your child’s doctor.
All children differ in how much sleep they need, how long it takes them to fall asleep, and how easily they wake up. Read on for more information from the American Academy of Pediatrics on how parents can help their children develop good sleep habits, even at an early age.
Babies do not have regular sleep cycles until about 6 months of age. While newborns sleep about 16 to 17 hours per day, they may only sleep 1 or 2 hours at a time. As babies get older, they need less sleep. However, different babies have different sleep needs. It is normal for a 6-month-old to wake up during the night but go back to sleep after a few minutes.
Here are some suggestions that may help your baby (and you) sleep better at night.
Keep your baby calm and quiet when you feed or change her during the night. Try not to stimulate or wake her too much.
Make daytime playtime. Talking and playing with your baby during the day will help lengthen her awake times. This will help her sleep for longer periods during the night.
Put your baby to bed when drowsy but still awake. This will help your baby learn to fall asleep on her own in her own bed. Holding or rocking her until she is com?pletely asleep may make it hard for her to go back to sleep if she wakes up during the night.
Wait a few minutes before responding to your child’s fussing. See if she can fall back to sleep on her own. If she continues to cry, check on her, but don’t turn on the light, play with her, or pick her up. If she gets frantic or is unable to settle herself, consider what else might be bothering her. She may be hungry, wet or soiled, feverish, or otherwise not feeling well.
Many parents find their toddler’s bedtime to be the hardest part of the day. Children this age often resist going to sleep, especially if they have older siblings who are still awake. Use the following tips to help your toddler develop good sleep habits:
Set up a quiet routine before bedtime to help your child understand that it will soon be time to go to sleep. Use this time to read him a story, listen to quiet music, or give him a bath. It may be tempting to play with your child before bed. However, active play may make your child too excited to sleep.
Be consistent. Make bedtime the same time every night. This helps your child know what to expect and helps him establish healthy sleep patterns.
Allow your child to take a favorite thing to bed each night. It’s OK to let your child sleep with a teddy bear, special blanket, or some other favorite toy. These often help children fall asleep—especially if they wake up during the night. Make sure the object is safe. Look for ribbons, buttons, or other parts that may be choking hazards. Stuffing or pellets inside stuffed toys can also be dangerous.
Make sure your child is comfortable. He may like to have a drink of water, a light left on, or the door left slightly open. Try to handle your child’s needs before bedtime so that he doesn’t use them to avoid going to sleep.
Do not let your child sleep in the same bed with you. This can make it harder for him to fall asleep when he is alone.
Do not return to your child’s room every time he complains or calls out. Instead, try the following:
Wait several seconds before answering and make your response time longer each time he calls. This will give him a chance to fall asleep on his own.
Reassure your child that you are there. If you need to go into the room, do not turn on the light, play with him, or stay too long.
Move farther from your child’s bed every time you go in, until you can reassure him verbally without entering his room.
Remind him each time he calls that it’s time to go to sleep.
Give it time. Helping your child develop good sleep habits can be a challenge, and it is normal to get upset when a child keeps you awake at night. Try to be understanding. A negative response by a parent can sometimes make a sleep problem worse.
Many infants die during sleep from unsafe sleep environments. Some of these deaths are from entrapment, suffocation, and strangulation. Some infants die from sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), which is the sudden, unexplained death of a baby younger than 1 year. However, the following are ways for parents to keep their sleeping baby safe.
Place your baby to sleep on his back for every sleep until he is 1 year old. If your baby has rolled onto his side or stomach, he can be left in that position if he is already able to roll from tummy to back and back to tummy. If your baby falls asleep in a car safety seat, stroller, swing, infant carrier, or infant sling he should be moved to a firm sleep surface as soon as possible.
Place your baby to sleep on a firm sleep surface. The crib, bassinet, portable crib, or play yard should meet current safety standards. Do not put blankets or pillows between the mattress and the fitted sheet. Never put your baby to sleep on a chair, sofa, waterbed, cushion, or sheepskin.
Keep soft objects, loose bedding, or any objects that could increase the risk of entrapment, suffocation, or strangulation out of the crib. These objects include pillows, quilts, comforters, sheepskins, bumper pads, and stuffed toys. Note: Research has not shown us when it’s 100% safe to have these objects in the crib; however, most experts agree that after 12 months of age these objects pose little health risk to healthy babies.
Place your baby to sleep in the same room where you sleep but not the same bed. This is the safest sleep arrangement for your baby. Put your baby’s crib close to your bed, so that you can easily watch and feed your baby.
Breastfeed your baby if possible.
Make sure that your baby gets all recommended immunizations.
Keep your baby away from smokers and places where people smoke.
Do not let your baby get too hot. In general, dress your baby in no more than one extra layer than you would wear. Your baby may be too hot if she is sweating or if she feels hot. If you are worried that your baby is cold, you can use infant sleep clothing.
Offer a pacifier at naptime and bedtime. This helps to reduce the risk of SIDS. If you are breastfeeding, wait until breastfeeding is going well before offering a pacifier. It’s OK if your baby doesn’t want to use a pacifier. If the baby’s pacifier falls out after he falls asleep, you don’t have to put it back in.
There are many things that can cause a child to wake up during the night. Most of these happen when children are overtired or under stress. Keeping your child on a regular sleep schedule may help prevent many of these problems. If your child’s sleep problems persist or get worse, talk with your child’s doctor.
Nightmares are scary dreams that often happen during the second half of the night when dreaming is most intense. Children may wake up crying or feeling afraid and may have trouble falling back to sleep.
Go to your child as quickly as possible.
Assure her that you are there and will not let anything harm her.
Encourage her to tell you what happened in the dream. Remind her that dreams are not real.
Allow her to keep a light on if it makes her feel better.
Once your child is ready, encourage her to go back to sleep.
See if there is something that is scaring your child, like shadows. If so, make sure they are gone.
Night terrors occur most often in toddlers and preschoolers and take place during the deepest stages of sleep. Deepest sleep is usually early in the night, often before parents’ bedtime. During a night terror, your child might
Sweat, shake, or breathe fast
Have a terrified, confused, or glassy-eyed look
Thrash around, scream, kick, or stare
Not recognize you or realize you are there
Try to push you away, especially if you try to hold him
While night terrors can last as long as 45 minutes, most are much shorter. Most children fall right back to sleep after a night terror because they actually have not been awake. Unlike a nightmare, a child will not remember a night terror.
Stay calm. Night terrors are often more frightening for the parent than the child.
Do not try to wake your child.
Make sure your child cannot hurt himself. If he tries to get out of bed, gently restrain him.
Remember, after a short time your child will probably relax and sleep quietly again. If your child has night terrors, be sure to tell babysitters what they are and what to do. If night terrors persist, talk with your child’s doctor.
Like night terrors, sleepwalking and sleep talking happen when a child is in a deep sleep. While sleepwalking, your child may have a blank, staring face. She may not respond to others and may be very difficult to wake up. Most sleepwalkers return to bed on their own and do not remember getting out of bed. Sleepwalking tends to run in families. It can even occur several times in one night among older children and teens.
Make sure your child doesn’t hurt herself while sleepwalking. Clear the bedroom of things your child could trip or fall on.
Lock outside doors so your child cannot leave the house.
Block stairways so your child cannot go up or down.
Do not try to wake your child when she is sleepwalking or sleep talking. Gently lead her back to bed and she will probably settle down on her own.
Bedwetting (also called
Your child is a deep sleeper and does not awaken to the signal of a full bladder.
Your child has not yet learned how to hold and empty urine well. (Communication between the brain and bladder may take time to develop.)
Your child’s body makes too much urine at night.
Your child is constipated. Full bowels can put pressure on the bladder and lead to problems with holding and emptying urine well.
Your child has a minor illness, is overly tired, or is responding to changes or stresses going on at home.
There is a family history of bedwetting. (Most children that wet the bed have at least one parent who had the same problem as a child.)
Your child’s bladder is small or not developed enough to hold urine for a full night.
Your child has an underlying medical problem.
Do not blame or punish your child for wetting the bed. Bedwetting is not your child’s fault. Reassure him that it will get better in time.
Have your child use the toilet and avoid drinking large amounts of fluid just before bedtime.
Put a rubber or plastic cover over the mattress to protect against wetness and odors.
Encourage your child to help change the wet sheets and covers. This teaches responsibility. It can also keep your child from feeling embarrassed if the rest of the family knows. However, if your child sees this as punishment, it is not recommended.
Set a no-teasing rule in the family.
Bedwetting usually disappears as children get older. If you are concerned about your child’s bedwetting, talk with your child’s doctor. There are treatments available.
It is common for children to grind their teeth during the night. Though it makes an unpleasant sound, teeth grinding is usually not harmful to your child’s teeth, but you may want to check with your child’s dentist to make sure. It may be related to tension and anxiety and usually goes away in a short while. However, it may reappear when your child is stressed.
Try to help your child deal with stress.
Talk with your child’s doctor to rule out any medical problems that may be causing the problem.
If you are concerned about your child’s sleep habits, talk with your child’s doctor. Keep a sleep diary to help track your child’s problem that includes the following:
Where your child sleeps
How much sleep she normally gets at night
What she needs to fall asleep (for example, a favorite toy or blanket)
How long it takes her to fall asleep
How often she wakes up during the night
What you do to comfort and console her when she wakes up during the night
The time and length of naps
Any changes or stresses in the home
Track this information for 1 to 2 weeks and bring it with you when you talk with your child’s doctor. Keep in mind that sleep problems are very common, and with time and help from your child’s doctor, you and your child will overcome them.